You have to make a lot of choices as you go through life. When you were a kid, they seemed relatively easy or at least you were aware of the consequences of your choices. You could choose to stay out after curfew, but you knew that would not go well with your dad. You could choose to not do your term paper, but that would not go well with your dad or your teacher. You learned to make choices that would benefit you.
I remember reading a quote once that said, “Every moment you have a choice, regardless of what has happened before. Choose right now to move forward, positively and confidently into your incredible future.”
For years, I tried to make those positive choices. After I had my two strokes though, I felt like my choices were limited. In fact, I resented the choices. I remember one of my recovery therapists who told me that I was not allowed to say negative things out loud. If I complained that I could not walk, she would say, “You may not be able to walk TODAY, but there’s tomorrow!” After a while, I learned that it really was better to keep a positive attitude and to focus on what I could do, more than on what I couldn’t do.
As a matter of fact, I’m still learning that lesson as I continue to recover and to adjust to my post stroke life. I can look at the limitations I now have or I can rejoice in the amazing number of things I can do. It really doesn’t serve me very well to hold negative thoughts in my head. It won’t serve you very well either.
If you’re struggling with fighting off those negative impulses, those things that destroy your options and keep you stuck, I invite you to walk with me on this one. Let’s make a pact that we will not let negative self-talk keep us from moving forward positively and confidently. Together we can make the hard choices and get better faster. Are you in?
Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.
Philippians 4:8, MSG